Comments on: How to Succeed Trying Again to Make Your Relationship Work http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/ Love Coach Gives Advice and Help for Singles, Dating, Relationships, Marriage and Breaking Up Thu, 07 Aug 2008 23:59:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: christena http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-862 christena Wed, 21 Nov 2007 20:33:41 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-862 I loved your article. It gave me very insightful ideas to help me keep my broken down relationship together.The baby is involed and at least we both agree that both parents in a child's life is important. I loved your article. It gave me very insightful ideas to help me keep my broken down relationship together.The baby is involed and at least we both agree that both parents in a child’s life is important.

]]> By: Cheryl http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-863 Cheryl Wed, 23 May 2007 19:23:25 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-863 I'm embarking on rekindle a relationship with my ex-husband. We are trying to make this work. But I am scared and not sure if I'm making the right decision. He has hurt me so much in the past, and even during our time of reconciling he let another woman spend the night, although he stated nothing happened, this is part of his MO. I want so much to trust him, but I am afraid to give him my heart for him to hurt me again. I'm looking for ways to trust and rekindle, but I'm running out of energy really fast. I’m embarking on rekindle a relationship with my ex-husband. We are trying to make this work. But I am scared and not sure if I’m making the right decision. He has hurt me so much in the past, and even during our time of reconciling he let another woman spend the night, although he stated nothing happened, this is part of his MO. I want so much to trust him, but I am afraid to give him my heart for him to hurt me again. I’m looking for ways to trust and rekindle, but I’m running out of energy really fast.

]]> By: TONYA http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-860 TONYA Sun, 07 Jan 2007 14:56:36 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-860 I MADE A MISTAKE. I WENT TO MEET SOMEONE FOR A DRINK AND LAUHGS AND NOW THE LAUGH IS ON ME. I LOVE MY MAN MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD AND NOW I HAVE HURT HIM SO BAD.AND NOW IF HE WILL JUST GIVE ME A CHANCE TO SHOW HIM I LOVE HIM AND I WILL NEVER MAKE THAT MISTAKE AGAIN. IT IS TOUGH TO GET BACK THE TRUST HE ONCE HAD WITH ME, BUT IF IT TAKES OUR LIFETIME I WILL PROVE TO HIM THAT I LOVE HIM MORE THAN ANYTHING.I LOVE YOU BABY I MADE A MISTAKE. I WENT TO MEET SOMEONE FOR A DRINK AND LAUHGS AND NOW THE LAUGH IS ON ME. I LOVE MY MAN MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD AND NOW I HAVE HURT HIM SO BAD.AND NOW IF HE WILL JUST GIVE ME A CHANCE TO SHOW HIM I LOVE HIM AND I WILL NEVER MAKE THAT MISTAKE AGAIN. IT IS TOUGH TO GET BACK THE TRUST HE ONCE HAD WITH ME, BUT IF IT TAKES OUR LIFETIME I WILL PROVE TO HIM THAT I LOVE HIM MORE THAN ANYTHING.I LOVE YOU BABY

]]> By: chaicork http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-859 chaicork Tue, 07 Mar 2006 20:59:35 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-859 It seems whenever I try to find material to fit my situation I find the "focus on the love foundation" stuff. I am not saying it's pithy at all. It just doesn't fit because we don't love eachother. We're trying again and again and again because we have children (me) and we don't want to fail (us) and we don't think anyone else has it any better in the end so why jump out of the frying pan and into the flame (him.) So, without the love foundation, what are we to build on? It seems whenever I try to find material to fit my situation I find the “focus on the love foundation” stuff. I am not saying it’s pithy at all. It just doesn’t fit because we don’t love eachother. We’re trying again and again and again because we have children (me) and we don’t want to fail (us) and we don’t think anyone else has it any better in the end so why jump out of the frying pan and into the flame (him.) So, without the love foundation, what are we to build on?

]]> By: Lotus http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-858 Lotus Mon, 06 Mar 2006 01:38:18 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-858 I found this article very helpful for me, in trying to focus on what is most important in trying to survive beyond the first five months of my marriage. I have decided to give this marriage at least a year's commitment, before considering other options--and it's the hardest thing I've ever done! I have found it difficult dealing with my husband's angry outbursts, his isolation, and his apparent inability to be close and loving, and plan for the future together. My fairy tale bubble has broken, and the day-to-day realities listed in this article are good focus for me. The daily rejection and loneliness is difficult, although it helps to consider that these are expressions of his problems and issues more than mine. I'm continuing to learn through each of my relationships, and growing stronger through them. I recommend Imago Therapy (a local therapist in trained in this technique) for dealing with issues from one's family of origin. Thanks for writing all! I found this article very helpful for me, in trying to focus on what is most important in trying to survive beyond the first five months of my marriage. I have decided to give this marriage at least a year’s commitment, before considering other options–and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done! I have found it difficult dealing with my husband’s angry outbursts, his isolation, and his apparent inability to be close and loving, and plan for the future together. My fairy tale bubble has broken, and the day-to-day realities listed in this article are good focus for me. The daily rejection and loneliness is difficult, although it helps to consider that these are expressions of his problems and issues more than mine. I’m continuing to learn through each of my relationships, and growing stronger through them.
I recommend Imago Therapy (a local therapist in trained in this technique) for dealing with issues from one’s family of origin. Thanks for writing all!

]]> By: Trixie http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-857 Trixie Sun, 11 Dec 2005 21:59:24 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/tryingagain/#comment-857 Great article Coach! I can relate to 'try again' (more than twice) without the right approach. Trying again is not repeating the same scripts or behaviours, hoping that this time will 'delete' the previous experiences within the relationship. I think if we have to 'try again' in a relationship, it is because that relationship has already created baggage. That baggage has to be accepted, but not repeated. I tried that way, but, my ex partner had his own perspective and didn't want to lose that feeling of the 'perfect relationship' by acknowledging the wrong turns we took. Anyway, Thank you for making it so clear Trix Great article Coach!
I can relate to ‘try again’ (more than twice) without the right approach. Trying again is not repeating the same scripts or behaviours, hoping that this time will ‘delete’ the previous experiences within the relationship. I think if we have to ‘try again’ in a relationship, it is because that relationship has already created baggage. That baggage has to be accepted, but not repeated. I tried that way, but, my ex partner had his own perspective and didn’t want to lose that feeling of the ‘perfect relationship’ by acknowledging the wrong turns we took.

Anyway, Thank you for making it so clear
Trix

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