Comments on: The Truth About Cheating

By: Ryan

Ryan — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 12:00:44 +0000

I spent years dropping hints big & small to my wife about our sex life. It is the classic case described in this book. Little or no sex, but worse she is very unattentive and not very affectionate. This is where I think the emtional part comes in. Sometimes its not just about the sex but its the little things that make a man/person feel loved and wanted. After actully telling her I would get my needs met outside the marriage for years and her still not seeming to care I finally did. Now that she knows about it I amthe bad guy in all of this. What more can aman do to get his wife to pay more attention to the realtionship. We have been together for 25 years and have three children…& before all you women start asking I will answer you…I am very affectionate…always letting her know I loved her and wanted her but. I agree if a man does not get his needs met at home he will stray. It may sound chauvinistic but true. I would wlecome any advice..

By: Rose Cutler

Rose Cutler — Mon, 10 May 2010 07:40:26 +0000

After a 22+ year marriage 1 daughter both of ours and my son 30 from a diffrent relationship. 2 grand kids both are 1 1/2 years old. Due to a huge lay off my husband went to work in Nevada, he couldnt find the $’s we needed to survive. after him being in Nevada and I in Washington State I have discovered he’s been cheating , we have not had sex in over 2 years. and we have been argueing alot. due to some real bad problems from my employers. Now that he has verified my suspions I feel as though I have a knife twisting in my heart. This is killing me also my kids are hurt although they are older. Hes had sex in our 5th wheeler with the other and we havent . I want the matress and sheets removed it makes me soooo sick. He says he still loves me but I dont see how since he has made himself availble . he’s going to come home in about 4 days I want to be loved but I dont want him touching me right now.I am so confused. I thought we had plans when he retired traveling together . and the grand kids. I actually get a stomah ache thinking about this, I feel bad for our daughter she is 21 but it does hurt all of us. sometimes I feel like I hate him. I just sit here and think what do I do

By: Dr. Jenn

Dr. Jenn — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 03:28:27 +0000

One more point I’d like to add, of course all of the emotional needs are important. But let’s not forget sexual needs. In general, men are more likely to cheat for sexual reasons than women are. And it’s often because their wives have stopped having sex with them. Granted it may be because the man needs to step up in other areas. But still, I often wonder what a bind this puts men in, their wives essentially saying: “I won’t have sex with you, but I expect you to be faithful!” Ouch, all the way around! So what needs to be done to revitalize the love and the sex- they go hand in hand if we want to prevent cheating.

By: Nick B.

Nick B. — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 22:56:10 +0000

Jenny, I agree, its more up to the man to step forward, try loving her, giving his love, his presence, his fun in love, to melt her first. Then the truth of the situation can reveal itself, whether the partnership has enough love and vitality to continue and grow.
A good woman can only respond and truly open up to love and fresh ‘Manly’ presence. And the man needs to just give his love with no ‘hooks’ (the result of hopping into bed and getting what he wants). That may happen, but to love is not to expect or demand an end result. True love is continuous.

By: Love Coach Rinatta

Love Coach Rinatta — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 20:05:23 +0000

Jenny, you are right, it would be good for men to learn to do more for women, as some men in our culture still don’t quiet get what they need to do in order to have a good relationship. There are plenty of books on that topic. On the other hand, I would read any book on relationships as applying to both men and women – we are first human, than divided into genders and we are much more alike than different.

By: Jenny C.

Jenny C. — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 19:21:51 +0000

I too read the first few pages of the book, only to find complete disappointment. Why is it victimized for men. I as a woman feel the same exact way as the cheating man. Unappreciated, emotionally drained. Thing have changed amongst society, we need more publications that point out why men need to do more for a woman.