Comments on: Relationship Tip: Why It’s Bad to Go to Bed Angry

By: Sonia

Sonia — Sat, 13 Aug 2011 17:33:31 +0000

Who plans on having a fight? I sure don’t. So what if the fight happens late at night, say right as you’re going to bed?
This article serves as a good reminder to not to bed mad, but I don’t agree with planning an argument for the morning. Who does that?

By: Money, fighting and sex – Designing Marriage

Money, fighting and sex – Designing Marriage — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 19:24:54 +0000

[...] came across this post this morning at The Love Coach Blog. Rinatta profiled a psychological study done last year that [...]

By: Frisvård

Frisvård — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 08:00:19 +0000

Agree with this! But do you need to fight at all? =)

By: camparker

camparker — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 22:43:24 +0000

I find that a positive intention hides behind every angry front. During argumentation, there is always an opportunity to more deeply understand one's lover. When we first meet someone, the other has an entire lifetime of experience behind themselves, just as we do. The more we spend time together, the more we learn about each other; the nurturing and the destructive. But one cannot survive without the other, just as each face of the coin needs the other. Regardless of the time, i like to enter a fight with the idea that i am on the brink of learning something new about my sweetheart, and when honesty guides my words (no matter how painful) our bond deepens as a result. [rq=1189145,0,blog][/rq]

By: Weekly Round-Up of Interesting Reads #1 | Engaged Marriage

Weekly Round-Up of Interesting Reads #1 | Engaged Marriage — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 01:10:23 +0000

[...] Don’t Go to Bed Angry. I found this article on the Love Coach Blog, and it rung a bell since it relates to my earlier post about Great Communication. [...]

By: angelina

angelina — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 14:26:53 +0000

Well, i believe that 100% because you never know if you’ll see that person in the morning!

By: Weekly Round-Up of Interesting Reads #1 | Engaged Marriage

Weekly Round-Up of Interesting Reads #1 | Engaged Marriage — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 22:26:38 +0000

[...] Don’t Go to Bed Angry. I found this article on the Love Coach Blog, and it rung a bell since it relates to my earlier post about Great Communication. [...]

By: Dustin

Dustin — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 14:25:27 +0000

Thank you for shedding some light on some sage advice that always seems to come up when you talk about quality communication in marriage. I actually wrote a blog post about the advice that you hear from (much) older couples after they win the "Anniversary Dance" at weddings, and "Don't go to bed angry." was one of those golden rules. Dustin EngagedMarriage.com [rq=584215,0,blog][/rq]Take 15 Minutes Each Day to Just be a Couple

By: Steve

Steve — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 11:14:18 +0000

I couldn’t agree more with this article! I have always been taught not to go to bed angry. This just reinforces that! Thanks for bringing this up!

By: Mikko Kemppe

Mikko Kemppe — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 21:55:06 +0000

I do not doubt the findings of the psychological study that sleep preserves emotionally charged events.

But I think to conclude that therefore it would be best to always talk and get a “fight” over before going to sleep is definitely not the correct conclusion to make.

Of course, if couples are able to talk everything over in a calm, loving, and centered fashion in midst of an argument that would be the optimal solution. And if they would be able to do so before going to sleep, then great.

But, as a men, I know that we often get very stuck and rigid in our arguments which does not often promote a loving conversation in midst of an argument or a fight. And to make a rule or suggestion that arguments or fights should be resolved before bed time can be counterproductive and in some instances even dangerous.

If men get angry and off-centered it is best for them to take a time out and to cool off to get centered before attempting to solve any relationship problems. It is often the attempt to get men to talk when they are angry that contributes to the problem of domestic violence. And if the fight happens to be right before a bed time, I would highly recommend the couple to go to bed rather than to fight through the night.
Yes, your quality of sleep may suffer, but it will be a whole lot better than no sleep at all.
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