Comments on: Relationship or Marriage in the Dumps? Here’s How to Refresh It! http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/ Love Coach Gives Advice and Help for Singles, Dating, Relationships, Marriage and Breaking Up Thu, 07 Aug 2008 23:44:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Romantic Nikki http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-2233 Romantic Nikki Sun, 08 Jun 2008 16:26:08 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-2233 Its so true that communication is number 1. It seems like once the communication slips, thats when the marriage starts to fail. The whole point is to be best friends with your partner and be able to trust each other 100% Telling each other your feelings is key because if one of you is unhappy, the other person might not have any idea. Great post! Its so true that communication is number 1.
It seems like once the communication slips, thats when the marriage starts to fail.

The whole point is to be best friends with your partner and be able to trust each other 100%

Telling each other your feelings is key because if one of you is unhappy, the other person might not have any idea.

Great post!

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]]> By: Carol http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1399 Carol Sun, 17 Jun 2007 16:31:32 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1399 I don't have a comment, however I had a problem, I have been with my guy for 4 years, we recently got engaged, about 6months ago. before that time we were having some real bad sexual issues, meaning he couldnt perform, well, we got pass that because he needed to have an emotional break down to get everything thing out, and bam! just like that he was cured overnight, great for both of us.:) Now it seems some time down the road we are not connecting emtionally at all, while I know a relationship can't be "on" all the time, I feel we've lost that connection, well at least I have. I don't seem to be attracted to him anymore, the other night he kissed me and it was just not working for me. I felt nothing other than, gosh, stop it!! it could be me becaus I'm not feeling good about myself at the moment, while I'm not overweight I have gain weight around 10lbs which now makes me 140lb. people tell me how attractive I am all the time, but I just don't feel it, anyway, I don't have a problem getting naked and I love sex, however since gaining weight i have tons of cellulite and I think to myself, gosh this looks bad, how can he be attracted to that! I don't think this is about gaing weight, I just need to know how to connect with my husband to be. I love him, and he's the one of the best gifts I've rec'd. Help!!! I don’t have a comment, however I had a problem, I have been with my guy for 4 years, we recently got engaged, about 6months ago. before that time we were having some real bad sexual issues, meaning he couldnt perform, well, we got pass that because he needed to have an emotional break down to get everything thing out, and bam! just like that he was cured overnight, great for both of us.:)
Now it seems some time down the road we are not connecting emtionally at all, while I know a relationship can’t be “on” all the time, I feel we’ve lost that connection, well at least I have. I don’t seem to be attracted to him anymore, the other night he kissed me and it was just not working for me. I felt nothing other than, gosh, stop it!! it could be me becaus I’m not feeling good about myself at the moment, while I’m not overweight I have gain weight around 10lbs which now makes me 140lb. people tell me how attractive I am all the time, but I just don’t feel it, anyway, I don’t have a problem getting naked and I love sex, however since gaining weight i have tons of cellulite and I think to myself, gosh this looks bad, how can he be attracted to that!

I don’t think this is about gaing weight, I just need to know how to connect with my husband to be.
I love him, and he’s the one of the best gifts I’ve rec’d.

Help!!!

]]> By: Jake http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1395 Jake Tue, 01 May 2007 16:08:04 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1395 Dear Love coach, I feel as if my life is ending. My girlfriend of 2 years recently broke up with me and it has broken my heart. She broke up with me because she had been unsure whether she loves me or not anymore. After talking to her about it, she feels as if our relationship was too close and committed, structured, and that the intimacy between us had faded and now she doesn't know if it will ever come back. We're both willing to try to fix things, by having a more loosely arranged relationship, but how can I regain that "spark" of intimacy with her again? please help me, I feel like she's my chance at love and I don't want to fail, - Jake Dear Love coach, I feel as if my life is ending. My girlfriend of 2 years recently broke up with me and it has broken my heart. She broke up with me because she had been unsure whether she loves me or not anymore. After talking to her about it, she feels as if our relationship was too close and committed, structured, and that the intimacy between us had faded and now she doesn’t know if it will ever come back. We’re both willing to try to fix things, by having a more loosely arranged relationship, but how can I regain that “spark” of intimacy with her again?

please help me, I feel like she’s my chance at love and I don’t want to fail,

- Jake

]]> By: Relationships-Know-it-All, Maranda http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1396 Relationships-Know-it-All, Maranda Tue, 10 Apr 2007 20:39:48 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1396 I think if "fireworks" are over and to be with your lover (spouse) annoys and bores you - it's time to separate. Life is too short to waste! Time to move on, ladies! ;) I think if “fireworks” are over and to be with your lover (spouse) annoys and bores you - it’s time to separate. Life is too short to waste! Time to move on, ladies! ;)

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]]> By: Love Coach Rinatta Paries http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1393 Love Coach Rinatta Paries Thu, 06 Jul 2006 02:05:38 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1393 Judy Thing is, you can't try to save the marriage and at the same time not try to save the marriage, even if you are hung up on the other guy. Try working through increase intimacy in your relationship eCourse. It's located here: http://www.whatittakes.com/classes/increaseint.html. The eCourse will help you let go of all the old anger - which is why you a numb towards your husband. If you want, I can help you with all this - let go of the other guy, earnestly try in your marriage, and let go of anger towards your husband. Judy
Thing is, you can’t try to save the marriage and at the same time not try to save the marriage, even if you are hung up on the other guy. Try working through increase intimacy in your relationship eCourse. It’s located here:
http://www.whatittakes.com/classes/increaseint.html. The eCourse will help you let go of all the old anger - which is why you a numb towards your husband. If you want, I can help you with all this - let go of the other guy, earnestly try in your marriage, and let go of anger towards your husband.

]]> By: Judy http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1392 Judy Thu, 06 Jul 2006 01:13:19 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1392 Wow....that makes a lot of sense. I've never been a big "talker" and he has anger/control issues, so up until the past 6 months, we've never had a real conversation. I was busy keeping the peace in our house and protecting the kids from his temper. Now our conversations revolve around the other guy and if I'm talking to him or not....quite miserable conversations actually....but VERY taboo, as you describe. I think perhaps it's too little too late in our case. I don't know how to start over with him. I've seen him make some big changes with his anger issues and have really been trying to "feel" something...I just feel numb. So I put off sex as long as possible and then when I know it's going to happen, I have to fight back an anxiety attack. I know part of this is due to the fact that I'm still in love with the other man. The attraction was like a stick of dynamite with him! So I close my eyes and talk myself through it and I'm not sure why my husband even wants sex with me. I do appreciate your help and wonder if I'm capable of true intimacy with anyone....sad and scary. Wow….that makes a lot of sense. I’ve never been a big “talker” and he has anger/control issues, so up until the past 6 months, we’ve never had a real conversation. I was busy keeping the peace in our house and protecting the kids from his temper. Now our conversations revolve around the other guy and if I’m talking to him or not….quite miserable conversations actually….but VERY taboo, as you describe. I think perhaps it’s too little too late in our case. I don’t know how to start over with him. I’ve seen him make some big changes with his anger issues and have really been trying to “feel” something…I just feel numb. So I put off sex as long as possible and then when I know it’s going to happen, I have to fight back an anxiety attack. I know part of this is due to the fact that I’m still in love with the other man. The attraction was like a stick of dynamite with him! So I close my eyes and talk myself through it and I’m not sure why my husband even wants sex with me.
I do appreciate your help and wonder if I’m capable of true intimacy with anyone….sad and scary.

]]> By: Love Coach Rinatta Paries http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1391 Love Coach Rinatta Paries Thu, 06 Jul 2006 00:16:26 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/prevent_breakup/#comment-1391 Judy, you do not have to be hot for each other - in fact you do not have to do anything - it's your life and you can live it just as you choose. However, for most adults passion brings a joy to the relationship or marriage that is otherwise missing. The sexual connection in happy marriages comes from intimacy. Intimacy is not the same thing as getting on the same page about parenting and other life issues. That is called partnering. Partnering is important to a healthy relationship and it does build the groundwork for emotional intimacy, but it is not emotional intimacy. I think you don’t feel "hot" for your husband because the two of you are still emotionally disconnected. And emotional connection happens mostly through words. In fact, emotional connection would not only help you be “hot” for each other but would also improve your overall happiness with each other. Try it - start to talk to each other about difficult issues - sex, money, beliefs, dreams, hopes, your affair - anything that you don't normally talk to each other about. The more difficult the subject the more of an intimacy gold mine it can be. The more you have scary, taboo conversations the more you are likely to start to feel a bit of that loving feeling. Judy, you do not have to be hot for each other - in fact you do not have to do anything - it’s your life and you can live it just as you choose. However, for most adults passion brings a joy to the relationship or marriage that is otherwise missing. The sexual connection in happy marriages comes from intimacy. Intimacy is not the same thing as getting on the same page about parenting and other life issues. That is called partnering. Partnering is important to a healthy relationship and it does build the groundwork for emotional intimacy, but it is not emotional intimacy. I think you don’t feel “hot” for your husband because the two of you are still emotionally disconnected. And emotional connection happens mostly through words. In fact, emotional connection would not only help you be “hot” for each other but would also improve your overall happiness with each other. Try it - start to talk to each other about difficult issues - sex, money, beliefs, dreams, hopes, your affair - anything that you don’t normally talk to each other about. The more difficult the subject the more of an intimacy gold mine it can be. The more you have scary, taboo conversations the more you are likely to start to feel a bit of that loving feeling.

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