Take a look at a great article on how parents affect your love life. I am one of the experts feature in the article. Parents effect not only your relationship behavior, but your partner choices, how you behave under stress and what you are willing and unwilling to put up with in a relationship. Kudos to sassybean.com for broaching this subject.
The article suggests you look at healthy couples for new role models, and that is a great start. And to definitively break the relationship mold created for you by your parents, you have to do much more work than that. This is one thing I work on extensively with clients, as redesigning your emotional life™ and is seldom navigated successfully without support.
From the Heart,
Love Coach Rinatta
From the Heart,
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hey there,
There are so many things that make us who we are, especially romantically. I don’t think when I was younger that I consciously told myself that I was going to follow my mother and father/stepfathers footsteps in how to be with another human being. But the more and more and more that I am in relationships, I find myself doing things like I was programmed from my childhood. Whether it’s the way that I fight, or the emotional support that I so highly demand from my partner, there is always a correlation between me and my parents. (especially my mother)
Thanks so much! have a great one. and keep up the posting.
Sincerely:
Chantal
Very well written article!
My parents are making my marriage hell!!! It has got to a very bad point. We stood up to them and now we are molding our relationship to what we want it to be. Not what my parents want it to be. Things are much better now that we have removed the parents from our relationship. They hate it but it’s our life not theirs…