Comments on: How to Cope in a Love Triangle – Help for the “Other” Man or Woman http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/ Singles, dating, relationship, marriage and breakup help. Must read if you want a conscious, loving relationship. Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:38:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Love Coach Rinatta http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/comment-page-3/#comment-3729 Love Coach Rinatta Tue, 24 Mar 2009 16:46:29 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=15#comment-3729 If you would like to comment on this post please go to my new other person support site http://tinyurl.com/howtocopeinlovetriangle If you would like to comment on this post please go to my new other person support site http://tinyurl.com/howtocopeinlovetriangle

]]> By: sasha http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/comment-page-3/#comment-3728 sasha Tue, 24 Mar 2009 12:19:59 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=15#comment-3728 I am in a relationship with a guy who has a girlfriend of 8 years, but lately they have been having problems and he realized that he wants out of the relationship with her. She is not willing to accept that its over and is using emotional blackmail to make him stay with her e.g. she says she will kill herself! He says he wants to be free to be with me but with her not accepting its becoming difficult, more so as he is in a different country now for work (my country). He feels ending a 8 year relationship over the phone is not fair but I don't see any other way because he won't be going back for at least 3 months and he can't pretend he is with her all this time. As for me I'm dealing with my own emotions, I want him to be free, I want a single man...and till it ends I dont know what I should do. He says he needs my love and support right now to resolve this but I am hurting too. What would be the right thing to do? I am in a relationship with a guy who has a girlfriend of 8 years, but lately they have been having problems and he realized that he wants out of the relationship with her. She is not willing to accept that its over and is using emotional blackmail to make him stay with her e.g. she says she will kill herself!

He says he wants to be free to be with me but with her not accepting its becoming difficult, more so as he is in a different country now for work (my country). He feels ending a 8 year relationship over the phone is not fair but I don’t see any other way because he won’t be going back for at least 3 months and he can’t pretend he is with her all this time.

As for me I’m dealing with my own emotions, I want him to be free, I want a single man…and till it ends I dont know what I should do.

He says he needs my love and support right now to resolve this but I am hurting too. What would be the right thing to do?

]]> By: Love Coach Rinatta http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/comment-page-3/#comment-3726 Love Coach Rinatta Thu, 19 Mar 2009 21:11:21 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=15#comment-3726 Support for the “Other Person in an Affair: are you the “other” man or woman in an affair and looking for support? Visit http://tinyurl.com/helpforotherperson Support for the “Other Person in an Affair: are you the “other” man or woman in an affair and looking for support? Visit http://tinyurl.com/helpforotherperson

]]> By: fata morgana http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/comment-page-3/#comment-3714 fata morgana Wed, 11 Mar 2009 08:34:30 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=15#comment-3714 We met on skype. This was more than half a year ago. At some stage after we met he told me he is married with three kids. It was too late to find out, we were both in love. We only was each other 3 times, as he leaves in another country. We are in contact every few hours of the day, knowing everything about each other. If we stop contact there is panic. His wife knows about me and is trying to be the perferct wife to keep him- that is what he says. He is convinced they are not compatable and he married the wrong person. However, as her behaviour is now corrected he cannot leave. I do not want to be a side for him, and only be able to hear from him when he can steal time. I have tried and tried to stop contact but he persuades me into it again and again. I am often crying and unhappy. he says lets just be positive. I can see this is a difficult journey for him and feel i cannot leave him with it. He needs me but i cannot cope. He says he cannot leave for someone not in the same city and with no perspective of ever being in the same city. I cannot adjust my future relative to a married man. what need to happen to progress??? We met on skype. This was more than half a year ago. At some stage after we met he told me he is married with three kids. It was too late to find out, we were both in love. We only was each other 3 times, as he leaves in another country. We are in contact every few hours of the day, knowing everything about each other. If we stop contact there is panic.
His wife knows about me and is trying to be the perferct wife to keep him- that is what he says. He is convinced they are not compatable and he married the wrong person. However, as her behaviour is now corrected he cannot leave. I do not want to be a side for him, and only be able to hear from him when he can steal time. I have tried and tried to stop contact but he persuades me into it again and again. I am often crying and unhappy. he says lets just be positive. I can see this is a difficult journey for him and feel i cannot leave him with it. He needs me but i cannot cope. He says he cannot leave for someone not in the same city and with no perspective of ever being in the same city. I cannot adjust my future relative to a married man.
what need to happen to progress???

]]> By: heartless http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/comment-page-3/#comment-3696 heartless Fri, 30 Jan 2009 23:51:03 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=15#comment-3696 I'm stuck in this silly love triangle, i've tried sooo many times to get out of it, It started last year, this boy, in my class, everyone was teasing me with him, at that time, i didn't feel the same way, because i still had feelings for my ex-bf. Then, somehow i started to open my heart to him, then BAM! it all went wrong, he got back with his ex-gf, i couldn't stop him, then their happiness, started to stab me, then somehow, he found out that i had feelings for him, and started treating me differently, we'd text until midnight or until we fall asleep, i knew it was wrong :/ then one day he asked if I liked him blablabla, and i had to tell the truth, because i know he knows the truth, at that time, his gf got her mobile confiscated, so i was the one he turned to everyday -.- he said things like "i know we would have been happier together rather than me with her, it's your fault you let me go in the first place" and stuff, which i didn't actually believed, but kinda wanted to. Then we'd hang out with our friends and my friends would force me to sit by him etc. till one day he said to my friend, that he loves his gf, but at the same time he likes me -.- i was really confused, he said to ME, his heart was 60% 40% me being the lower percentage. Every time they broke up, i thought it was the chance for me, i never did give up, until today, and I'm still trying, but I know I have no chance, he loves her too much :( i know the best way is to forget him, but i feel kinda empty without him around, and I didn't want to blurt it out to my friends, i know what they are going to say, which is the opposite of what I don't want to and can't do.. I feel much better letting it all out here :) I’m stuck in this silly love triangle, i’ve tried sooo many times to get out of it,

It started last year, this boy, in my class, everyone was teasing me with him, at that time, i didn’t feel the same way, because i still had feelings for my ex-bf. Then, somehow i started to open my heart to him, then BAM! it all went wrong, he got back with his ex-gf, i couldn’t stop him, then their happiness, started to stab me, then somehow, he found out that i had feelings for him, and started treating me differently, we’d text until midnight or until we fall asleep, i knew it was wrong :/ then one day he asked if I liked him blablabla, and i had to tell the truth, because i know he knows the truth, at that time, his gf got her mobile confiscated, so i was the one he turned to everyday -.- he said things like “i know we would have been happier together rather than me with her, it’s your fault you let me go in the first place” and stuff, which i didn’t actually believed, but kinda wanted to. Then we’d hang out with our friends and my friends would force me to sit by him etc. till one day he said to my friend, that he loves his gf, but at the same time he likes me -.- i was really confused, he said to ME, his heart was 60% 40% me being the lower percentage. Every time they broke up, i thought it was the chance for me, i never did give up, until today, and I’m still trying, but I know I have no chance, he loves her too much :( i know the best way is to forget him, but i feel kinda empty without him around, and I didn’t want to blurt it out to my friends, i know what they are going to say, which is the opposite of what I don’t want to and can’t do.. I feel much better letting it all out here :)

]]> By: RONY http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/comment-page-3/#comment-3692 RONY Mon, 26 Jan 2009 12:31:54 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=15#comment-3692 I'M RONYY FROM KERELA, I LOVE MY FRIEND[FEMALE] VERY MUCH BUT SHE HAD A LOVER AND THT BOY IS MY FRIEND, WHAT TO DO ? I’M RONYY FROM KERELA,

I LOVE MY FRIEND[FEMALE] VERY MUCH BUT SHE HAD A LOVER AND THT BOY IS MY FRIEND, WHAT TO DO ?

]]> By: Abby http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/comment-page-3/#comment-3621 Abby Sat, 17 Jan 2009 13:47:20 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=15#comment-3621 I used to work with this guy about 9 years ago and there was always something there between us but we couldnt do anything about it as he had a girlfriend. We used to go out behind her back and see each other but nothing ever happened. Then we lost contact. Just before christmas we bumped into each other again and all those feelings for both of us came flooding back. We met up for a drink that night and he was honest with me and told me he was now married to this girl. However, something couldnt stop us and one thing lead to another and the next thing you know is he is telling me he loves me and i am telling him i love him. Over the last 4 weeks we have been stealing every minute together i have been going to work with him when im free and he has been lying to his wife to get out of the house to come and see me. However on wednesday night my phone rang and it was his wife wanting to no what was going on. The following day i got a text from him saying he was fine he just needs to be left alone adn i havent heard from him since. I dont know what to do caue i reall do love him. I used to work with this guy about 9 years ago and there was always something there between us but we couldnt do anything about it as he had a girlfriend. We used to go out behind her back and see each other but nothing ever happened. Then we lost contact. Just before christmas we bumped into each other again and all those feelings for both of us came flooding back. We met up for a drink that night and he was honest with me and told me he was now married to this girl. However, something couldnt stop us and one thing lead to another and the next thing you know is he is telling me he loves me and i am telling him i love him. Over the last 4 weeks we have been stealing every minute together i have been going to work with him when im free and he has been lying to his wife to get out of the house to come and see me. However on wednesday night my phone rang and it was his wife wanting to no what was going on. The following day i got a text from him saying he was fine he just needs to be left alone adn i havent heard from him since. I dont know what to do caue i reall do love him.

]]> By: Nicole http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/comment-page-3/#comment-3617 Nicole Fri, 16 Jan 2009 20:07:27 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=15#comment-3617 Ladies , I feel your pain. And I have to say- sometimes they do leave. It's possible. But here is what is guaranteed- whatever character flaws, issues or deficiciencies you've found in your partner since you've been together will remain and will likely grow larger. Leaving his prmiary relationship won't magically make everything better/perfect. People only change when they want to (and when they get uncomfortable enough to), not becaue they should, or because they are hurting you, or because it's the right thing to do or whatever. If a man is staying in an unfulfilling relationship because he's too scared to leave, he will still be a coward even if he's with you one day. If he's a little loose with the truth, he will be that way with you too. Cause it's not about you, or her. It's all about him and how he handles his relationships. I sympathize and empathize with all of you, very much. I'm simply saying- even if the 'best' case scenario occurs, he leaves for you, you will still likely not be happy with him. Take care of yourselves, and find the strength to face your fears. It's possible. Every relationship you ever have is really about you. Ladies ,
I feel your pain. And I have to say- sometimes they do leave. It’s possible. But here is what is guaranteed- whatever character flaws, issues or deficiciencies you’ve found in your partner since you’ve been together will remain and will likely grow larger. Leaving his prmiary relationship won’t magically make everything better/perfect.

People only change when they want to (and when they get uncomfortable enough to), not becaue they should, or because they are hurting you, or because it’s the right thing to do or whatever. If a man is staying in an unfulfilling relationship because he’s too scared to leave, he will still be a coward even if he’s with you one day. If he’s a little loose with the truth, he will be that way with you too. Cause it’s not about you, or her. It’s all about him and how he handles his relationships.

I sympathize and empathize with all of you, very much. I’m simply saying- even if the ‘best’ case scenario occurs, he leaves for you, you will still likely not be happy with him.

Take care of yourselves, and find the strength to face your fears. It’s possible. Every relationship you ever have is really about you.

]]> By: Mareka http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/comment-page-3/#comment-3589 Mareka Thu, 08 Jan 2009 16:56:17 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=15#comment-3589 About 5 years ago, I met the man of my dreams (or so I thought). We went on dates, sent soppy text messages to one another and generally connected on a much more spiritual level than I have ever known. We kissed, many times. Two weeks later he tells me that he is engaged to someone else. Since then, I have been constantly ignoring this man and have recently deleted his number from my mobile. Men like this disgust me. After all we had been through, he had no right to mess with me this way. He is currently living with this woman and his two children. Good luck to them. I hope that he feels shitty about how he has messed my head up. I feel very sorry for his kids and girlfriend. She still doesn`t know. About 5 years ago, I met the man of my dreams (or so I thought). We went on dates, sent soppy text messages to one another and generally connected on a much more spiritual level than I have ever known. We kissed, many times. Two weeks later he tells me that he is engaged to someone else. Since then, I have been constantly ignoring this man and have recently deleted his number from my mobile.

Men like this disgust me. After all we had been through, he had no right to mess with me this way. He is currently living with this woman and his two children. Good luck to them. I hope that he feels shitty about how he has messed my head up. I feel very sorry for his kids and girlfriend. She still doesn`t know.

]]> By: Love Coach Rinatta http://www.lovecoachblog.com/lovetrianglesurvival/comment-page-3/#comment-3582 Love Coach Rinatta Tue, 06 Jan 2009 22:01:17 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=15#comment-3582 Angela, there are always exceptions to the rule, but by and large affairs do not work out nor turn into full on primary relationships. Angela, there are always exceptions to the rule, but by and large affairs do not work out nor turn into full on primary relationships.

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