Love Coaching - how it really helps
Love Coaching Social Experiment - watch me coach Jodi, a single, bright, beautiful, late-thirty-something lady to help her attract the man of her dreams – reality tv style, right in front of your eyes and ears.
Read full introduction to this social experiment, follow the links from there to previous coaching sessions and then back to this post.
One interesting point that Jodi brought up is this: she thinks that I already have her answer and am asking her questions as an exercise. As if I am just holding back her answers so she discovers them for herself.
But here is the interesting thing about self-discovery, growth and coaching. Yes, I do sometimes know what the answers are. But sometimes I don’t. What I do know is the questions to ask to elicit growth in the client answers, which can be very powerful for the person being coached.
For example, what Jodi discovered in the last round of questions and answers is that she is in a hurry and that is one of her main reasons for dating the newly divorced, unavailable men. This does not yet make sense to me, so you know I am going to ask her more questions, because I want to deeply understand her so that I can help her. And I want her to deeply understand herself so that she can have a choice in her actions.
The main point is: Jodi may be looking for an answer as to how attract the love of her life. The answer is easy: stop attracting unavailable men and start attracting available ones. But the answer does not help at all.
What will help is having a choice about her actions. Right now she dates unavailable men and seemingly can’t attract anyone else – i.e. has no choice. Through questions, answers, self-discovery, and other tools we will use as we continue to work together, she will gain choice. She really will, as have many hundreds of my clients before her. Then she will begin to attract the kind of men she really wants, the kind who will be able to love her the way she wants to be loved.
Update: see what Jodi and I talk about in our third coaching sesion
From the Heart,
