I want to introduce you to Jodi and to a social experiment she and I will be conducting.
Jodi is a single, young, bright, beautiful, warm, late-thirty-something lady who is looking for a great, loving, life-long relationship. I have coached her in the past, mainly to get over a breakup she was going through. She recently asked for coaching again, this time on finding the man of her dreams.
It seems that Jodi keeps attracting newly-divorced men who don’t know what they want and are, in her words, “using dating the find themselves.” They love being with her, but are non-committal, closed off emotionally, and can’t give her what she wants – a deep, loving connection and a life-long relationship.
Normally I would coach Jodi in private, by email and phone, and keep our coaching relationship strictly confidential, as I do with all my clients. But Jodi is a fearless soul on the cutting edge, which is why I will be coaching her right in front of your eyes and ears. That’s right: you get to see me coaching Jodi so she can attract the man of her dreams.
The arrangement: Jodi will be getting complimentary coaching from me in exchange for her willingness and openness to share herself on my blog and hers. My biggest reason for coaching her publicly is so that the world, and you, can see what love coaching with me is like and how much love coaching with me can benefit your love life.
To be honest, I hope that you will find this experiment, and my coaching, so intriguing, appealing and powerful that you will be uncontrollably compelled to hire me as your coach. You should, because I can really help you, as you will see. And in case you are interested, you can go here to find out more about how to get coached by me.
For Jodi, the benefits of getting coached in public are many. For one, she will be getting valuable coaching – about $450 worth of coaching monthly because we will be interacting almost every day – for free. Additionally, Jodi and I hope that a wonderful man will be attracted to this experiment and fall head over heels in love with her, and she with him, and they will eventually ride off into the sunset to live happily ever after. It happens; it might happen for her. At the very least she will gain valuable life skills to use on her love-journey. Let’s all watch as it happens for Jodi, as she deserves to be loved and truly is quite a catch.
The dates: Every Friday Jodi will send me an email with her coaching inquiry for that week, and I will reply and post both her question and my reply on my blog here – www.LoveCoachBlog.com.
I may reply to that, and so on…that’s how the interaction will continue. Some weeks we may not go back and forth more than once and some weeks we may post daily. But you can always count on having a new installment of Coaching Jodi to Attract a Fulfilling Relationship to read weekly.
As an additional bonus, Jodi and I will conduct coaching sessions over the telephone about once every two weeks and post those for you in a podcast form, so that you can hear what coaching sounds like and what’s going on with Jodi.
So there you go. In the world where reality TV is all the rage, welcome to reality Love Coaching via blogging.
Here is Jodi’s most recent dating background, so that you will know what she is has been dealing with on the dating scene:
Speed dating experience…
you meet a boatload of guys in one night and the only one who connected with me (and me him) was never married. That didn’t stop him from telling me on the first date that he and his longtime partner are not together anymore but have a son who they are fighting over for whatever reason. He goes into detail about how she wanted him to marry her but he refused and now she is bitter. That was date one. For some reason, I agreed to date two where we met at a bar and he proceeded to let me buy the beers. I got to hear stories about how he is in so much debt due to lawyers and how he really likes me….I got up to go to the bathroom. When I returned, he had found a new male friend. At this point they were woman-bashing and I made a polite get away.
chatted with a guy via email for a little while. He had not been on match but three weeks, and I found that attractive. Someone who was not “tainted” by bad dates. We end up meeting for lunch and I was the first person he met off the site. He was nervous and I had been down this road a few times, getting used to it, so I wasn’t too uptight. We had a nice lunch and agreed to see each other again. Somehow, again, on date two, he goes into how he is newly divorced because he wife cheated on him. His neighbor ladies made him go on match. I got a LONG STORY about how his wife would take the car HE bought her and drive far away for the affair. Okay…Not that he is EVEN CLOSE to getting to a state where he could be comfortable dating. BTW, he is now my mechanic. He does great work on cars, end of story.
match.com speed dating
I was at another crossroads, debating on quitting match. My profile was hidden and then they had this online speed dating event. It was the coolest technology. You would dial this conference call line and at the same time look at the guy’s profile on match.com….You could chat for 4 minutes and if you were interested, you could click a box. When I heard Albert’s South African accent, I was intrigued, someone different!!!!! NOT!!! From a different country maybe but SAME ISSUES! Married for 20years, had a breakdown, had an email affair, couldn’t live with his wife anymore, got divorced and spent 7 months telling me he is on a journey and I am part of it. Also told me that he has never told anyone his life story before and that he loves me but is afraid of that. He eventually gets restless, and moves back onto match.com where he resides today.
Doug… With his partner for 11 or 13 years (couldn’t keep track) married to her for 4 with a 4 year old daughter. His profile says “looking for soulmate” with this dreamy stuff in it like he had a girl write it so he would look attractive to women. Did I mention he IS very attractive? Did I mention he knows this? Anyway, he makes no promises and is brutally honest. Brutally meaning “He is very interested in what his ex wife is doing and not afraid to share it with anyone who will listen”. They are in some sort of pissing match for all the world to see. The money/house/visitation stuff is settled but now it is on to some sort of “play up” game. They both know who the other is dating because they tell each other in a “ha ha, I am doing better than you” way. Odd. Come to think of it, maybe it was his ex wife who wrote his profile for him. Apparently, she sends him nasty emails. Whatever….Problem is, we have a sexual relationship and nothing more due to his emotional unavailability and my inability to let go and face nothingness or one more internet dating guy.
Dustin… Sweet, small town NEWLY DIVORCED guy. Ex wife has mental problems (depression) which made his life miserable. He wanted so bad to help her but she was very mean and cried all the time. She still calls him to “hear his voice.” He emails and text messages me and I reply but I told him that I need someone in a different place than where he is in life right now but would like to remain friends. We have not crossed the sexual boundary so I don’t feel connected to him in any way. He solidifies my longing for someone I can connect to…especially since I like his character qualities a lot more than Doug’s.
See Jodi’s first coaching inquiry to me and my reply to her.