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Conversation Continues in our Love Coaching Social Experiment - watch me coach Jodi, a single, bright, beautiful, late-thirty-something lady to help her attract the man of her dreams – reality tv style, right in front of your eyes and ears.

Read full introduction to this social experiment, follow the links from there to previous coaching sessions and then back to this post.

Jodi and I have been going back and forth this week by email and by blogs, talking about why she attracts and more importantly, dates, unavailable men. Here is our conversation – her questions, comments and my coaching to her.

In reply to my coaching to her Jodi says:

No, I have never been able to fix anyone or beat the odds.

Funny! When I think about beating the odds, I think about gambling. When I think about it, I realized that I am not interested in playing the lottery, betting on horse races or visiting the casino. In my quest for new adventures, I have tried these forms of entertainment but each time, I would get disillusioned because I lose my allotted amount of money and figure I can find much better ways to spend it besides giving it to someone else so they can become richer, even if it just for entertainment.

If I put this into a different perspective, I can see that I am betting against the odds in the dating world today. I am allowing my resources to be depleted by guys who have nothing banked because they are emotionally depleted. Even though they have potential to win, the odds are against it. How come I can accept these cards as the hand I was dealt? Why do I feel the need to play the hand that was given to me to see if I can bluff my way through it in order to win the love I so desire? For someone who likes and appreciates what others have to offer, at this point in time I sure am terrified to get dealt another losing hand.

Love Coach Rinatta Paries says:

Good self-observations! There is something underneath all this, and that’s what you need to get at. You are not a gambler, yet you gamble on men knowing you have loosing odds. You want love yet you choose men who can’t give it to you. Why? What’s the point? Each one of us has internal logic that easily explains why we do things. The logic may not make sense to anyone else, may not be applicable to anyone else, but it makes sense internally to us. So, your behavior makes sense internally to you, but why? What is really the purpose of dating men you can’t have? Are you protecting yourself from something or avoiding something by it?"

 
Jodi resisted replying to my questions. Actually she ignored this comment from me altogether, hoping it would go away. Little does she know that I remember everything about my clients, from minute details about their lives to every question I ask them that goes unanswered J However, I am not a scary coach nazi. I just care about Jodi and I know what she wants for herself, and letting her ignore important questions is not good for her. 

 Update: take a look at Jodi’s reply to this coaching

From the Heart,