http://www.lovecoachblog.com/holiday_gifts_under_30/ Singles, dating, relationship, marriage and breakup help. Must read if you want a conscious, loving relationship. Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:22:39 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/holiday_gifts_under_30/comment-page-1/#comment-1882 Lucretia called Llucy Tue, 15 Jan 2008 04:09:41 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/?p=61#comment-1882 One has to forgive one's ex. I disagree. My husband lied to me with every word he spoke. He lies still. He used me for financial support until he found someone younger with lots of money, a rich family and a house. I became very ill during our marriage and the man I was married to simiply ignored the matter. He was verbally abusive, extremely discouraging and very very cruel. He doesn't believe he needs forgiveness because he believes he did nothing wrong: every man for himself. Why forgive this person. It would be another, very deep rejection. Should one forgive a rapist? The murderer of one's child? The cruel user? This is like asking one to forgive someone for the theft of a life. How does this help? Forgiveness depends on the perception of the value of the person to be forgiven. In my case, he has no value. His life is a lie. One has to forgive one’s ex. I disagree. My husband lied to me with every word he spoke. He lies still. He used me for financial support until he found someone younger with lots of money, a rich family and a house. I became very ill during our marriage and the man I was married to simiply ignored the matter. He was verbally abusive, extremely discouraging and very very cruel. He doesn’t believe he needs forgiveness because he believes he did nothing wrong: every man for himself. Why forgive this person. It would be another, very deep rejection. Should one forgive a rapist? The murderer of one’s child? The cruel user? This is like asking one to forgive someone for the theft of a life. How does this help? Forgiveness depends on the perception of the value of the person to be forgiven. In my case, he has no value. His life is a lie.

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