Comments on: Do Relationships Get Easier With Time and Age? http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/ Love Coach Gives Advice and Help for Singles, Dating, Relationships, Marriage and Breaking Up Thu, 07 Aug 2008 23:44:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: jade http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1140 jade Mon, 04 Dec 2006 13:54:01 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1140 Dearest Rinatta I seem to be in a hopeless situation, my boyfriend and i, have been going out for 3 years now. Early last year he spoke about marriage, and i was a very mutual conversation / decision about marriage.... the first step was for our parent to get together...my family invited his,,,,BUT up to this day...they havent called my folks over..... He insists that he wants to be with me...and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me..yet i get no serious committment... PLEASE HELP Dearest Rinatta

I seem to be in a hopeless situation, my boyfriend and i, have been going out for 3 years now. Early last year he spoke about marriage, and i was a very mutual conversation / decision about marriage….
the first step was for our parent to get together…my family invited his,,,,BUT up to this day…they havent called my folks over…..

He insists that he wants to be with me…and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me..yet i get no serious committment…

PLEASE HELP

]]> By: Jenn http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1139 Jenn Wed, 18 Oct 2006 18:54:32 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1139 I need advise? I have been out of a relationship with this guy we will call Joe,for 2 years we were together for 7 years. I moved shortly after we broke up and got into a new relationship we will call him Tom, and got married after only knowing Tom for 4 months. My new husband and I just moved back to the town that Joe lives in and I find myself wanting to call Joe's family we were all very close and I miss them so so much. Joe and I have a few common friends that I have avoided entirely since I have been back I miss them as well. I dont want to make anyone uncomfortable am I being selfish if I call them or do I just forget about all of them and start new. I need advise? I have been out of a relationship with this guy we will call Joe,for 2 years we were together for 7 years. I moved shortly after we broke up and got into a new relationship we will call him Tom, and got married after only knowing Tom for 4 months.

My new husband and I just moved back to the town that Joe lives in and I find myself wanting to call Joe’s family we were all very close and I miss them so so much. Joe and I have a few common friends that I have avoided entirely since I have been back I miss them as well. I dont want to make anyone uncomfortable am I being selfish if I call them or do I just forget about all of them and start new.

]]> By: bunny http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1138 bunny Sun, 18 Jun 2006 17:38:44 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1138 Jane is right. Time does not improve a bad relationship. It takes more than love and care. I'm learning that you probaby should not expect improvement without MAJOR effort. Weigh the benefits, risks and costs. Don't feel bad about making changes to feel good. Jane is right.
Time does not improve a bad relationship.
It takes more than love and care.
I’m learning that you probaby should not expect improvement without MAJOR effort. Weigh the benefits, risks and costs. Don’t feel bad about making changes to feel good.

]]> By: Jane http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1137 Jane Sat, 17 Jun 2006 00:21:23 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1137 No, relationships do not easier with time nor with age. period. No, relationships do not easier with time nor with age. period.

]]> By: SMM http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1136 SMM Wed, 22 Mar 2006 13:39:19 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1136 One thing I constantly struggle with is accepting people for who they are. I have a tendancy to want to change people. The irony of it is; I don't want anyone trying to change me. One thing I constantly struggle with is accepting people for who they are. I have a tendancy to want to change people. The irony of it is; I don’t want anyone trying to change me.

]]> By: Cheryl Cramer http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1135 Cheryl Cramer Tue, 21 Mar 2006 21:20:28 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1135 Time does interesting things to romance, for sure! When I first moved in with my husband [to be at the time], we enjoyed sex every day, sat and talked for hours, played backgammon, drank tea together. Of course, I wasn't working at the time and when I did find employment it was only part-time; he got laid-off from his job for 13 months, so we really got to know each other. Now we have settled, both working full-time and things just aren't the same, but in some ways they are better because we know when to leave the other alone and know when to come to the other to help sort out a problem. Life changes, thus love changes. I realize I am probably better off than some people in relationships in the fact that my spouse and I have grown together and not apart. As long as both partners are working on the relationship in a sincere and open manner, I feel that we don't have to lose the love, caring and affection. Time does interesting things to romance, for sure! When I first moved in with my husband [to be at the time], we enjoyed sex every day, sat and talked for hours, played backgammon, drank tea together. Of course, I wasn’t working at the time and when I did find employment it was only part-time; he got laid-off from his job for 13 months, so we really got to know each other. Now we have settled, both working full-time and things just aren’t the same, but in some ways they are better because we know when to leave the other alone and know when to come to the other to help sort out a problem. Life changes, thus love changes. I realize I am probably better off than some people in relationships in the fact that my spouse and I have grown together and not apart. As long as both partners are working on the relationship in a sincere and open manner, I feel that we don’t have to lose the love, caring and affection.

]]> By: Liz http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1134 Liz Tue, 21 Mar 2006 19:41:54 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1134 I have read that book, but I think I need to read it again! So, do you think that a guy who doesn't appear to be that "in to you" can change his tune? Is there a way to help that process? I went out with this man twice who is out of town working 3-4 days a week. We had a great time together and the dates were long because we were having a good time, though we didn't have sex. Now he will only email on occasion and call on occasion. I know he's got tons going on, but I'm not sure how to respond to him, as he is sort of maintaining contact but not trying to date me right now. I feel like he's trying to keep me around in a friendly way until he's in a place where he feels more like dating or is more free to. I do know he likes me and I do know he's very busy, but still I have read that book and it makes me think he's not that in to me. I'd like to change it though! There was definitely a physical attraction between us and more. Liz I have read that book, but I think I need to read it again! So, do you think that a guy who doesn’t appear to be that “in to you” can change his tune? Is there a way to help that process? I went out with this man twice who is out of town working 3-4 days a week. We had a great time together and the dates were long because we were having a good time, though we didn’t have sex. Now he will only email on occasion and call on occasion. I know he’s got tons going on, but I’m not sure how to respond to him, as he is sort of maintaining contact but not trying to date me right now. I feel like he’s trying to keep me around in a friendly way until he’s in a place where he feels more like dating or is more free to. I do know he likes me and I do know he’s very busy, but still I have read that book and it makes me think he’s not that in to me. I’d like to change it though! There was definitely a physical attraction between us and more.

Liz

]]> By: Love Coach Rinatta Paries http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1133 Love Coach Rinatta Paries Tue, 21 Mar 2006 16:48:27 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1133 Marylin, On your guy, read the book called “He's Just Not That Into You.” If he fits that description, you may want to get some space from him until he becomes more into you. On my newsletter and its frequency – I am going to send the newsletter out more frequently shortly. MY goal is to go back to every other week, and occasionally even once a week. I have been busy updating my websites and eCourses, and that is what has kept me from sending the newsletter more frequently. Marylin,
On your guy, read the book called “He’s Just Not That Into You.” If he fits that description, you may want to get some space from him until he becomes more into you.

On my newsletter and its frequency – I am going to send the newsletter out more frequently shortly. MY goal is to go back to every other week, and occasionally even once a week. I have been busy updating my websites and eCourses, and that is what has kept me from sending the newsletter more frequently.

]]> By: marylin http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1132 marylin Mon, 20 Mar 2006 23:51:31 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/easyrelationships/#comment-1132 I give too much, sometimes i need to pull back, sometimes i feel the guy is pulling back, i think its normal to take time to be introspective before rushing into a fire of hay that burns so quickly it self eztingushes, so I need to learn that, plus im a giver n need to know when im giving too much or not enough as i dont know the boundaries of giving, my current love is a giver also, but he promises to call, then doesnt, he always has a good reason, but when does it go from a good reason to an excuse???? cos im on the fence if i should break off w him for that reason alone n have to tell him that it bugs me that he says he do something like call, we long dist. and then doesnt, cos often its wekend n hes got plenty of time to call n say hi i wont be calling tonight etc, or im going out w the guys i dont care that he goes out w the guys, i do care that he doesnt keep his word, it shows not keeping his promise n makes me wonder if hes Unreliable>?? hes very focused on his work n often brings work home w him on weekends, help! I just want to be advised, gosh,,,,,plus what happened we didnt hear your newsletter in over a month now! gosh I give too much, sometimes i need to pull back, sometimes i feel the guy is pulling back, i think its normal to take time to be introspective before rushing into a fire of hay that burns so quickly it self eztingushes, so I need to learn that, plus im a giver n need to know when im giving too much or not enough as i dont know the boundaries of giving, my current love is a giver also, but he promises to call, then doesnt, he always has a good reason, but when does it go from a good reason to an excuse???? cos im on the fence if i should break off w him for that reason alone n have to tell him that it bugs me that he says he do something like call, we long dist. and then doesnt, cos often its wekend n hes got plenty of time to call n say hi i wont be calling tonight etc, or im going out w the guys i dont care that he goes out w the guys, i do care that he doesnt keep his word, it shows not keeping his promise n makes me wonder if hes Unreliable>?? hes very focused on his work n often brings work home w him on weekends, help! I just want to be advised, gosh,,,,,plus what happened we didnt hear your newsletter in over a month now! gosh

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