Comments on: Divorce and Breakup Recovery http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/ Love Coach Gives Advice and Help for Singles, Dating, Relationships, Marriage and Breaking Up Mon, 12 May 2008 11:03:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: beth http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-2158 beth Tue, 29 Apr 2008 17:48:57 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-2158 I too have been trying to follow this along. My breakup has been 8 days ago. Somehow I got thru the weekend. We dated for 8 years and recently i grew up and wanted more of a committment and I guess he could not handle that. He felt that part of him wanted to be with me and the other part he was not sure about so he ended up cheating on me. The weird part is that i am not mad at him I hate what he did to me. I can understand what he felt in a way cause our coummincation was gone and we were distant for awhile. but this is pretty hard to go through. I love and miss him but just want him to be happy. i am trying to be strong by not having any contact with him because he called me twice yesterday but what gets me thru this are: He needs to feel the pain of not having me around him and if I talk to him he will not get this part. i also do not need a reminder that we are not together I know this and do not need to hear it again. I too have been trying to follow this along. My breakup has been 8 days ago. Somehow I got thru the weekend.

We dated for 8 years and recently i grew up and wanted more of a committment and I guess he could not handle that. He felt that part of him wanted to be with me and the other part he was not sure about so he ended up cheating on me. The weird part is that i am not mad at him I hate what he did to me.

I can understand what he felt in a way cause our coummincation was gone and we were distant for awhile.

but this is pretty hard to go through. I love and miss him but just want him to be happy.

i am trying to be strong by not having any contact with him because he called me twice yesterday but what gets me thru this are:
He needs to feel the pain of not having me around him and if I talk to him he will not get this part.
i also do not need a reminder that we are not together I know this and do not need to hear it again.

]]> By: Jacky http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-2154 Jacky Sat, 26 Apr 2008 23:44:22 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-2154 I have just read your article and it is really helpful. I've just separated from my partner of 6 years. He decided that we couldn't be together any more last week. I don't really understand why this has happened. He called it quits just out of the blue. Maybe it's because we are young. We got engaged at the end of last year and I was looking forward to our next step. We lived together for a long time and in december of last year his job required him to move to another state. I couldn't follow him straight away but I was going to join up with him this august. We had made plans for our future together but now they won't happen. I don't hate him but I want to understand the reason for it ending. I have called him and asked him to come and talk to me and give me a reason for him leaving. I won't ask him to come back but I needed closure from him to move forwards. He agreed to the talk and is coming down to see me. Is this a good thing to do? Having a talk to understand the situation? This is my first long-term relationship. It's been a very dark week for me but I have amazing friends around me and my family has been very supportive. I'm trying to move forward. I've stumbled and fell but I'm trying. I have just read your article and it is really helpful.
I’ve just separated from my partner of 6 years. He decided that we couldn’t be together any more last week. I don’t really understand why this has happened. He called it quits just out of the blue. Maybe it’s because we are young. We got engaged at the end of last year and I was looking forward to our next step. We lived together for a long time and in december of last year his job required him to move to another state. I couldn’t follow him straight away but I was going to join up with him this august. We had made plans for our future together but now they won’t happen. I don’t hate him but I want to understand the reason for it ending. I have called him and asked him to come and talk to me and give me a reason for him leaving. I won’t ask him to come back but I needed closure from him to move forwards. He agreed to the talk and is coming down to see me. Is this a good thing to do? Having a talk to understand the situation? This is my first long-term relationship. It’s been a very dark week for me but I have amazing friends around me and my family has been very supportive. I’m trying to move forward. I’ve stumbled and fell but I’m trying.

]]> By: R. Ambrose http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1993 R. Ambrose Mon, 18 Feb 2008 18:06:25 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1993 I have been married to my husband for seven months (but we'd been dating about two years before) and recently I found out he started talking to an ex, his "first love" to be exact. They are currently living together and have plans to be married some time next year. This article is real great advice, but the part about no communication is the hardest since we have a one-year-old daughter. I also don't know if I'll be able to forgive him any time soon. I just sit and wonder where I went wrong and why I just can't get over it. Is it wrong, though, that I sit here and pray they won't work out? Is it wrong that I want to be happy too? That I hope their marriage isn't nearly as successful as ours is (because we are separated and not divorced)? I just need some answers. I have been married to my husband for seven months (but we’d been dating about two years before) and recently I found out he started talking to an ex, his “first love” to be exact. They are currently living together and have plans to be married some time next year. This article is real great advice, but the part about no communication is the hardest since we have a one-year-old daughter. I also don’t know if I’ll be able to forgive him any time soon. I just sit and wonder where I went wrong and why I just can’t get over it. Is it wrong, though, that I sit here and pray they won’t work out? Is it wrong that I want to be happy too? That I hope their marriage isn’t nearly as successful as ours is (because we are separated and not divorced)? I just need some answers.

]]> By: R. Ambrose http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1992 R. Ambrose Mon, 18 Feb 2008 18:03:30 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1992 I have been married to my husband for seven months (but we'd been dating about two years before) and recently I found out he started talking to an ex, his "first love" to be exact. This article is real great advice, but the part about no communication is the hardest since we have a one-year-old daughter. I also don't know if I'll be able to forgive him any time soon. I just sit and wonder where I went wrong and why I just can't get over it. I have been married to my husband for seven months (but we’d been dating about two years before) and recently I found out he started talking to an ex, his “first love” to be exact. This article is real great advice, but the part about no communication is the hardest since we have a one-year-old daughter. I also don’t know if I’ll be able to forgive him any time soon. I just sit and wonder where I went wrong and why I just can’t get over it.

]]> By: sally http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1938 sally Fri, 25 Jan 2008 10:02:51 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1938 I can't believe I'm going through what I'm going through. I've been married for 22 years to a go man, but very emotionally cold. We have children together and I've tried to be everything I'm supposed to be. I met someone else 5 1/2 years ago. We started an affair. At the time my husband and I were seperating but the man I was seeing thought we had completely seperated. I know this sounds incredible but for 5 years I continued seeing this man (although he broke up with me many times because he wanted more) he didn't know my husband still lived in my house. He came over very rarely, which bothered him. We broke up for the last time 4 months ago and he's already moved in with his step brother's ex girlfriend. I had not called him but once I found out I left a horrible voicemail. I'm so angrey and hurt. I feel lied to and betrayed and I realize I have absolutely no right to feel that way. How do I cope? I can’t believe I’m going through what I’m going through. I’ve been married for 22 years to a go man, but very emotionally cold. We have children together and I’ve tried to be everything I’m supposed to be. I met someone else 5 1/2 years ago. We started an affair. At the time my husband and I were seperating but the man I was seeing thought we had completely seperated. I know this sounds incredible but for 5 years I continued seeing this man (although he broke up with me many times because he wanted more) he didn’t know my husband still lived in my house. He came over very rarely, which bothered him. We broke up for the last time 4 months ago and he’s already moved in with his step brother’s ex girlfriend. I had not called him but once I found out I left a horrible voicemail. I’m so angrey and hurt. I feel lied to and betrayed and I realize I have absolutely no right to feel that way. How do I cope?

]]> By: sandy http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1967 sandy Mon, 21 Jan 2008 19:25:32 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1967 I have been divorced now for 10 years and most days I feel I am over it, however somedays I grieve for the loss of a marriage and a complete family. My kids are grown now and I grieve for those lost years. I have since met a man who wants a serious relationship, but I keep backing away. I am afraid of another breakup, and I could not stand another hurt like that. Any advice out there? I have been divorced now for 10 years and most days I feel I am over it, however somedays I grieve for the loss of a marriage and a complete family. My kids are grown now and I grieve for those lost years. I have since met a man who wants a serious relationship, but I keep backing away. I am afraid of another breakup, and I could not stand another hurt like that. Any advice out there?

]]> By: Yani http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1946 Yani Fri, 04 Jan 2008 06:21:10 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1946 Dear All, I recently break up with my partner and i feel the hurt so deep as my relationship with him was for 2.5years..we know each other for so long but in year 07 dec hhe found a new gal and was into it together. Im so shocked and they have plans to get engaged already.. Ive been wondering where are my wrong doings? Advice how should i overcome everyday of my life? Thank you Dear All,

I recently break up with my partner and i feel the hurt so deep as my relationship with him was for 2.5years..we know each other for so long but in year 07 dec hhe found a new gal and was into it together.

Im so shocked and they have plans to get engaged already..

Ive been wondering where are my wrong doings? Advice how should i overcome everyday of my life?

Thank you

]]> By: jeanette http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1959 jeanette Sun, 30 Dec 2007 23:10:14 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/divorce_help/#comment-1959 This article just hit the nail on the head. It is everything that I am learning to do with my divorce. My marriage was 14 years long and it is hard, but I know that I will make it. If a person can follow this advice they will feel tons better. My problems is not the forgiving it is the no contact. This article just hit the nail on the head. It is everything that I am learning to do with my divorce. My marriage was 14 years long and it is hard, but I know that I will make it. If a person can follow this advice they will feel tons better. My problems is not the forgiving it is the no contact.

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