Comments on: Dealing with Heartache – Here’s Relief

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 04:42:22 +0000

My girlfriend broke up with me almost a month ago. She was and still is my first love. I started dating her two years ago then out of the blue she left me for a man. She doesnt care what happens to me. She was my first for EVERYTHING and now she doesnt even want to hear my voice. I have heart pain so bad it feels like it will kill me. I feel like being killed would be less painful. I just want her back and i know i can never have that and it makes me want to die. I can’t stop crying, i just really want her back.

By: Mira

Mira — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 17:39:32 +0000

I thought I found my soul mate and Loved him like nothing else…Ten years of my life invested in him and now I feel nothing but heartache. This pain is unbearable, and makes each breath in life unbearable.

I read this recently somewhere and is helping me –
“All things in life are temporary, If going well, enjoy it, they will not last forever. If going wrong, don’t worry, they can’t last long either”

It is hard but Thank God the pain will be temporary! It has been 6 weeks since we separated and I hope I can recoup soon with the support of friends, family and meditation.
This website is helpful.

Cheers to us all for having the courage to LOVE and being strong! This too shal pass and we will find our perfect partners – we will LOVE again!

By: Mira

Mira — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 17:17:11 +0000

Amen – We will Love Again!

By: ZZ

ZZ — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 01:05:26 +0000

So much pain. It feels like I’m going to have a heart attack (it’s in the genes).

We were dating when she found out she was pregnant by another guy. She never pretended it was mine. It was messy. I stuck by her. She left and went home, all 6000 miles away, with a gorgeous little boy who called me Daddy. I thought she was the one for me. That little boy that called me Daddy certainly was. She suffers from what’s called Voicelessness, she changes herself to become what she thinks you want, but then can’t hold the ‘pose’, and so the relationship just crumbles in front of you, and no conversation, no heart to heart, will ever put it back together again.

She’s dating again now. I’m not. The desolation is complete.

Life seems to hold nothing worth speaking of. I just move between the ends of the day looking forward to the comfort sleep brings. Even alcohol does nothing for the pain.

I just want my life to be over already. I’m sick of it, the whole shooting match. I can’t tell you how much I miss my little man, how much I feel I’ve let him down.

By: Michael Ray Graves

Michael Ray Graves — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 14:34:23 +0000

Its been months almost a year since she last left me. The pain was tremendous i cared for her gave her my all n more. I couldnt eat sleep or live without her. She took da biggest chunk out of myheart and till this day its still missing. i depended on marijuana and liquor to get me ova her but thats only a temporary relief from it. Every female ive been with after her has ben terrible it seems as if i dont trust n beleive n females since she did me how she did. n most of da stuff se did to me i accuse my counterparts of doing. I jus don kno wat to do no matter wat my heart hurts n yearns for da healing it needs. the meditation worked for a couple of mins. But in reality im still broken..

By: James

James — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 16:09:03 +0000

@Chris your experiences are same with mine,i think women are not ment to be loved with all our hearts.mine is about a month now and there were plans to get married december 2010.I had done introduction dec 2009 with the family as part of our the traditional rites.The oldest man and her family members came and before drinking the wine and stuffs i came it the bride to be was called and asked if they should go ahead and drink my wine,she smiled and said yes.Everything seemed ok and i was expecting a list of what i will bring for the main Traditional rite when she got the list she said she was gonna send it via courier and i told her easter is just arround the corner that when i come then i will colect it then we can plan.To my greatest surprise i asked for a book on Holy spirit which she collected the last time she came to my house and i heard her say “i will bring everything that i collected from u”i knew that statement ment something i travelled easter and after partying with my family she broke the news,that i should hold the marraige plans and i asked why she gave some reasons which i knew was not genuine.bt anyway spoke to the mother about it cos i was close with the family already they talked to her and she was bent on her decision but i later found out thru her phone that she was dating another guy.Man its painful ,i sacrificed a lot in this relationship to make it work.i saw the signs bt she kept on assuring me that she wont leave me bt in the end she left.well i guess thats to show us that the “MIND OF MAN IS FULL OF DECEIT”we all need to becareful on issues bothering on “LOVE”.alwaz have one belief “WHAT GOES ARROUND COMES ARROUND”The New guy may or may not be the perfect ladies tend to go by what they SEE.The future is Unknown,issues of marraige is not physical to me.anyway i have decided to move on,it hasnt been easy bt i will survive it.I dont plan entering into a relationship immediately so that i dont make mistake.

By: TLA

TLA — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 17:30:25 +0000

I am not the victim I am the perpetrator, this is the 2nd time i broke her heart because of my indecisiveness, but this time i did it becuase i want her to find love, i want her to experience love elsewhere and if we are lead back to eachother (which i pray we are) then we will do it forever. It is hard to read these msg, because I am certain this is how she felt towards me, It has been a year, we havent spoken a word, i think she has moved on, but if she loved me as much as she said then i pray that i still have a part of her heart. I hate what i put her through, i hate destroying her. But if i didnt end it I could have never given her my whole heart, she is the only woman i ever saw myself marrying. and i hurt everyday but she doesnt know because i carry and hide this burden of being the bad guy. everyone out there that has been hurt, dont ever give up on love, if you believe and know in your heart that you are meant to be with that person, then you can make it happen, when you form a bond that is true and real no one or nothing can destroy it. I am gonna continue to hurt because i deserve it, and i will continue to pray for her everyday that she is lead back to me, but more importantly i will pray for myself that i become a better man, better freind and a better lover to her and her only.

By: IFEANYI

IFEANYI — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 07:17:08 +0000

It remarkable how we met.We were born the same day,month but not d same year.Her dad and mine share d same name,likewise me and her junior.So i thought it was fate,but after 2 years of being in luv wt each other i noticed she was dating smone behind my back.She lied at first but opened up when she was done with me.Few wd understand how i feel considering how much i love her-it kills

By: anita

anita — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 08:04:42 +0000

why do you think she lied to you?

By: judy

judy — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 07:31:38 +0000

my relationship with my husband of 6 years stopped working nearly 1 year ago, then about 5 months ago i went out with my colleague who had the same problem but 19rs older than me, I simplely thought that older man would be nicer and more mature, everything went very well at the beginning, I still remember that when i was so confused about was it the right thing to do then he made promises, commitments…that he would love me have a family with me, but when i finally decided to separated from my husband, he decided to end our relationship, what a joke.
it has been 4 weeks since the break up, i still have heartaches every day, its normal, and i do feel angry all the time with his bluffing and backstabbing, but i keep telling myself that i am attractive and the person who decides to leave you does not worth the tears and the hurt, pick yourself up and be the better person – I wish him well and I tell myself everyday to really mean it, just give them time to let them realise what they’ve lost.