Coaching Jodi to Attract a Relationship, Coaching Session #1
Coaching session #1 of Love Coaching Social Experiment - watch me coach Jodi, a single, bright, beautiful, late-thirty-something lady to help her attract the man of her dreams – reality tv style, right in front of your eyes and ears. Read full introduction to this social experiment.
Jodi says:
Let’s get going. Lead me to becoming attractive to the right crowd, picture or no picture!
Love Coach Rinatta Paries says:
Jodi, attraction is a funny thing. You would think it’s all about how you look, how you sound in your ad, if you are doing online dating, how you carry yourself when you walk into a room, if you are doing live dating. You know - attractive enough to have someone respond. But attraction goes much deeper than that.
Have you ever seen people who attract what they want to them? They want something – money, a job, a parking space, a relationship – and it just comes to them. This happens all the time to certain people, while other people seem to have to work very hard to get the same things for themselves.
The truth is we are always attracting something to us in this sense - pulling something to us. In your case, you are attracting people to date, but they are just not the kind of people you want. Now pragmatically you could say that that’s the only kind of people that are out there. But the attracting of newly divorced men is a fairly specific, unique experience. Other people may occasionally attract that type of man, but not always, as you do.
That means something in you is attracting these men, something in you is pulling them in. What that something may be, is what I would like to explore with you, so that I can help you change the kind of people you attract. We are more than meets the eye, even on the web. We are purposeful energy. You are attracting these men on purpose, even though your mind does not know what that purpose is.
What you will see is that when we discover and address that purpose, you will start to attract different kinds of men and it will happen organically.
To that end let’s do a little pretending. Let’s pretend you are attracting newly divorced men who don’t know what they want and are not looking for a long-term relationship on purpose. Now I know you are not doing this consciously, but let’s pretend you are.
What do you get out of dating them? Make this explanation as plausible as you can, using everything you know about yourself, your issues, and your history, and let’s see what happens.
Update: take a look at Jodi’s reply to this coaching
From the Heart,
on January 14, 2006 @ 1:43 pm
[…] My desire to become attractive picture or no picture is what Coach Rinatta and I are working on this week. She had asked me to pretend that I am attracting unavailable men on purpose and asked me describe what that is like. […]
on January 16, 2006 @ 10:35 pm
i am going through the same things , i think i will try this approach..i will stay tuned to find out how all this is working..good luck to you!!
on January 18, 2006 @ 10:31 am
these unavailable men are human beings too - its not all that complicated - I think one should just make a wonderful life for oneself be happy in your own existence- be confident normal and proud of what you are and can offer to this world - select your friends carefully and the men you date - identify the ones that never qualify eg.drug addicts alchoholics and unavailable men such as men who are abnormal in character and eccentric about their ways -(a divorced man is as human as a divorced woman.)its not so much about being divorced its more about the person’s character.and a woman who attracts clinkers is as much a clinker herself.She has to clean her act first and formost.. and the rest will fall in place.Learn to love your own company and enjoy being single - just flow with life and dont try to control things make the right choices -take care of now and the future will take care of itself- and life keeps getting better and better if you choose it that it will- its up to us really.falling in love and being loved is not all that complicated - it happens naturally - just let go and it will come to you if you are worth loving.
on March 20, 2006 @ 4:26 pm
Unavailable men are human, yes, but being human hardly qualifies someone for partnership. This is a very important subject - attracting the attached who present themselves as available. Don’t blame the victim by calling women who attract these male duds “clinkers.” And please don’t discount this issue with platitudes about the “rest falling into place” and so on.