A psychological study done last year found that sleep preserves emotionally charged events.

This means that if you have a fight with your partner and don’t resolve it before bed, you are more likely to hold on to the fight  and your hurt feelings in your permanent memory. Not a good thing for your relationship!

If you need to fight, do so  many hours before bedtime. Morning is best, so that both of you have all of the day to get over the fight. Before sleep, make sweet emotional memories, so that the two of you can preserve in your memory the sweetness of your relationship.

Did you just have a fight with your partner? Reduce how hurt you both feel now and later and you stand a better chance of resolving the offending issue and saving your relationship from damage.

How do you reduce hurt? Try playing 10 minutes of Tetris – a computer game – right after the fight. A recent psychological study suggests that playing Tetris can reduce the intensity of flashback of a trauma.

Since relationship fights are often traumatic and hurtful, playing Tetris could help you both reduce the trauma of the fight, take it less seriously and minimize its damage to you and the relationship.

Resentment and anger towards your partner happens. However, how you deal with it can make or break your relationship. Be aware of your thoughts & feelings, so resentment and anger towards your partner don’t lurk in the background poisoning love. Tell your partner what you want, need, what’s bothering you. Even if it’s small, big, or something you “shouldn’t feel”.