Love Coach Blog

Are you having a hard time believing that you can have a wonderful, deeply satisfying, loving relationship? Do you think thoughts that make it impossible for you to believe that your dreams of true love will ever come true? Do you wish life was different; people were different, so that you can have the relationship you have always dreamed of?

By now you have been exposed to enough ideas about law of attraction to realize that you should think positively. If I told you it would be a good idea to think that you can and will attract the right partner or that you can get more love in your current relationship, you would agree with me.

But you might ask, as many of my clients do, “How can I think positively, when what I see around me are people who are not a good fit for me? How am I ever going to find the kind of relationship I want? How am I ever going get my partner to turn around his or her behavior and love me the way I want to be loved?”

And I will tell you, the way I tell my clients, that you see what you think – NOT see and then think. Something in your past, likely in your childhood, set you up to think that you can’t have love, or that all men or women are this way or that, or that you don’t ever want to get that close to someone, etc. And those thoughts became the things you see. That is why, when you look around, you only see what you already think. And there’s work to be done on changing your mind. And that that’s the kind of work we can do in coaching. Curious about coaching? See here.

But I will also tell you that you need to start retraining your mind to see the world differently, and learn to see what you want to see. The way to do this is to reprogram your thoughts. You need to flood your mind with as much positive information as you can daily. Listen daily to books and courses on positive thinking, the law of attraction, expending your potential, achieving your dreams! Do you work out, commute, grocery shop, vacuum, do the dishes or laundry, needle point, walk? All of these and any other tasks that use your body but not your mind are a great time to feed yourself positive information. Feed your brain messages of possibility so that you can more easily tune into the love you want.

Here are audios I recommend to my clients to feed their brain:

1. A course on creating the life you want. Here is a very powerful audio program to teach you exactly how to attract what you want.

2. Get the unabridged audio of the famous Secret here. It is well worth it, even if you have seen the movie or read the book, because you can’t always read or watch, but you can almost always listen.

3. Get this audio book to learn what your emotions mean and how to use them to tap into the law of attraction.

4. Get this program to help you see what a healthy, vital, deeply loving relationship looks like – so that you know what you are going for - and to learn about some of the ways to get there:

With these four courses/audio books, you will have about 40 hours of super-positive, uplifting, brain-feeding and life-changing information. Listen to something on this list daily, for at least 30 to 60 minutes, or add some of your favorite resources to the list. Do this for a month and notice the difference you start to see in the world around you in terms of whom you see and what you begin to believe is possible. And then keep listening.

Go! And below please share other resources that help you think positively and believe you can attract the love of your life or get more love in your relationship.

Are you just starting your journey through divorce or have been on the divorce road for a while? Divorce is a difficult, fearful journey, and you should not have to go it alone. But many people do.

I can’t think of a situation more painfully gut-wrenching than impending divorce. When you are going through something like this, you almost need to be carried, as your own legs often won’t carry you willingly forward.
And that is what is often lacking for people going through divorce - a community of people who are going through the same experience. The experience of having to face the reality that your marriage is about to dissolve and that you are going to have to face life – and in many cases parenting – alone.

That is why I am creating a Divorce Support Group,
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What’s wrong with your relationship or with your lack of relationship? How miserable are you about what’s wrong? What if what’s wrong brought you happiness instead of misery? Try this: next time you see something is wrong, say “Hmm, I don’t like that. What I would like instead is ….” Take a good long time to describe what you would like instead and bask in the deliciousness of it. You will feel good.