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Last Coaching Session of Love Coaching Social Experiment - watch me coach Jodi, a single, bright, beautiful, late-thirty-something lady to help her attract the man of her dreams – reality TV style, right in front of your eyes and ears.

Read full introduction to this social experiment, follow the links from there to previous coaching sessions and then back to this post.

A while back asked Jodi to go get a book at the bookstore, read it and start doing the exercises in it. The purpose was to give her what she is missing and the reason she doesn’t have love in her life – the experience of being loved.

The first week she was waiting for the book to get to her library. At the end of that week I told her to go get the book at the bookstore. While there, she got another book instead, one that helps her mind but does nothing for her heart. Jodi talks about her struggle to get the right book in this post.

In general coaching has been hard on Jodi because she didn’t think we would do anything deep in coaching, and here we are, having gotten to the bottom of her issues. Jodi talks about her struggle with what’s coming up for her here.

In my last coaching to Jodi I asked her what she would be willing to do to move herself forward in dealing with her relationship issues. Her first answer was to come clean with what’s been going on in her relationships.

This is a good, honest answer and yet, if she wants to get what she came into coaching for – love in her life – she will have to do more. She will have to find a way to take daily action towards growing herself into a warm, open, and connected person.

You see, at the very core, Jodi’s issue is that
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Coaching Session #10 of Love Coaching Social Experiment – How to Build Self-Love. Watch me coach Jodi, a single, bright, beautiful, late-thirty-something lady, to help her attract the man of her dreams – reality-TV style, right in front of your eyes and ears.

Read the full introduction to this social experiment , follow the links from there to previous coaching sessions and then back to this post.

This week Jodi is wondering how to find the voice inside of her that is louder than her addiction to unavailable men in general and louder than her latest interest in Dustin – a geographically-unavailable man in particular.

Read what Jodi said in her latest post and then come back here and read my coaching to her.

Jodi said: If this path I am on is addiction and not true attachment, it comes down to saying no to the addiction (to Dustin?). I have to find a voice that is more powerful than the addiction is. Where to find that voice is the challenge.

Love Coach Rinatta says: Jodi, the voice that is louder than the addiction to Mr. Unavailable, i.e. emotionally unavailable man, one that’s louder than settling for crumbs of love when you are so hungry for connection, is the voice of
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Coaching Session #9 of Love Coaching Social Experiment – Opening the Heart. Watch me coach Jodi, a single, bright, beautiful, late-thirty-something lady to help her attract the man of her dreams – reality-tv style, right in front of your eyes and ears.

Read the full introduction to this social experiment, follow the links from there to previous coaching sessions and then back to this post.

Jodi is feeling melancholic and my heart goes out to her. She is realizing what has not worked in her life and that wherever she goes, there she is, the consequences of her choices in tow.

Take a look at her two posts about how she’s feeling and what she is dealing with and then come back here and read my coaching to her.

I have good news for Jodi. No matter what our past looks like, we can be redeemed. From any point in one’s life a person can create a life he or she truly loves. So, Jodi, you will have what you want even though you have not created a love life you want, or even a life you love, as of yet.

I know you feel sad about the past – lonely and empty – and you are afraid it will always be like this for you. So how can I say that life will be different for you soon, that your heart will open and you will have real love?
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Love Coaching Social Experiment - watch Love Coach Rinatta Paries coach Jodi, a single, bright, beautiful, late-thirty-something lady, to help her attract the man of her dreams – reality-tv style, right in front of your eyes and ears. Coaching Session #8 - “The hole and what to do about it.”

Read the full introduction to this social experiment, follow the links from there to previous coaching sessions and then back to this post.

Jodi was on vacation for a week and when she came back she put up a number of posts that I will address in this coaching session.

Read Jodi’s first post in this series about what happened on her vacation regarding connecting with her kids, and then come back here to read my coaching to her.

Jodi said: “My sons and I had some great quality time. I tried to get them to open up to me about their feelings about our family situation, past and present. They don’t seem to know life any different and are accepting. I am finding it difficult to open up but it is not surprising. I am doing the best I can.”

Love Coach Rinatta says: Jodi, kids can’t articulate deep emotional experiences, however, you bet they were affected by what happened in your family. With children, emotional healing is often a one-way street. They may not know that anything was different, but if you acknowledge the pain they felt at the time, if you apologize for it, it will make a difference for them. You just have to trust that you are making an emotional difference.

More importantly, you have to help them heal from being abandoned by you. And you do that by being emotionally present for them, even if they find it weird and uncomfortable and silly. You and I have already talked about how to do that. If you need to
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