Comments on: How To Know if You Are In A Good Relationship http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/ Love Coach Gives Advice and Help for Singles, Dating, Relationships, Marriage and Breaking Up Thu, 07 Aug 2008 23:44:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: havva http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1380 havva Fri, 26 Oct 2007 17:03:25 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1380 hi, i am a college student studyin medicine. i had to leave my country to go abroad to attend college. i had a boyfriend before i left but i didnt realise how much i loved him until i left. we are still going out but the distance is killing us both. we have to wait for summer when i go back home before we can meet. i really love him that is why this distance really hurts. sometimes i get so frustrated but i cant let him go. i need ur advice hi,
i am a college student studyin medicine.
i had to leave my country to go abroad to attend college. i had a boyfriend before i left but i didnt realise how much i loved him until i left. we are still going out but the distance is killing us both.
we have to wait for summer when i go back home before we can meet. i really love him that is why this distance really hurts. sometimes i get so frustrated but i cant let him go. i need ur advice

]]> By: Vivian Dlamini http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1381 Vivian Dlamini Fri, 20 Jul 2007 01:38:31 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1381 Hi, I really found a lot of insight within your artical but I felt I still must write you and share with you my problem. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. When we first started dating he never told me that he was still seeing his now ex girlfriend. Him and his ex girlfriend were together for 7 years before me, they basically grew up together. He cheated on her with me for about a year and a half. His now ex girl friend and I did not know about each other. Anyway to make a long story short, I found out and I broke up with him. We were seperated for 3 months and during that whole time he would call me and e-mail me, telling me how sorry he was. I finally decided to give it a try again and so far we have been together for almost 2 years (after the break up). I still have issues trusting him but my major issue with him is that he always puts me down. He is always complaining about something that I don't have that he would like me to have and no matter what I do to compensate for it, he's never satisfied. Right now we are seperated because I've been having personal problem to which he has responded to by first being supportive then being annoyed (these were school and money related problems, I'm in college and support myself). He claims I have too many problems, all the time. Just the other day he also told me that he loved me but felt like he was missing out on something more in life relationship-wise. I feel so betrayed and he's been this way for a while, never satified. I do everything for him, I'm even helping him get through school by tutoring him. My heart seems to be in the way of making a lot of decisions and so I ask you, do you think I'm wasting my time on this relationship? Hi, I really found a lot of insight within your artical but I felt I still must write you and share with you my problem. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. When we first started dating he never told me that he was still seeing his now ex girlfriend. Him and his ex girlfriend were together for 7 years before me, they basically grew up together. He cheated on her with me for about a year and a half. His now ex girl friend and I did not know about each other. Anyway to make a long story short, I found out and I broke up with him. We were seperated for 3 months and during that whole time he would call me and e-mail me, telling me how sorry he was. I finally decided to give it a try again and so far we have been together for almost 2 years (after the break up). I still have issues trusting him but my major issue with him is that he always puts me down. He is always complaining about something that I don’t have that he would like me to have and no matter what I do to compensate for it, he’s never satisfied. Right now we are seperated because I’ve been having personal problem to which he has responded to by first being supportive then being annoyed (these were school and money related problems, I’m in college and support myself). He claims I have too many problems, all the time. Just the other day he also told me that he loved me but felt like he was missing out on something more in life relationship-wise.
I feel so betrayed and he’s been this way for a while, never satified. I do everything for him, I’m even helping him get through school by tutoring him.
My heart seems to be in the way of making a lot of decisions and so I ask you, do you think I’m wasting my time on this relationship?

]]> By: Hailey http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1378 Hailey Wed, 02 May 2007 21:47:37 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1378 Hi, I have some things I need to ask you about. My boyfriend is living with his best friend and his best friends girlfriend is living there too. His best friend, Chad, has been gone to Texas for 2 weeks now and will be there for another week. I feel really uncomfertorable about him staying there with her by himself, so I decide to stay with him a few nights just to make sure that nothing happens. Why do I feel like he is cheating on me? Then I try to talk to him and he gets mad at everything that I say is bothering me. I mean, for an example, Chads girlfriend had two of her close friends over and i came over to see my boyfriend, but the whole time he didn't talk to me, he talked to the other girls. What should I do? Should I just drop him or should I wait a little bit and see if things get better, or something else.....? I hate feeling like this. I trust him I do but I can't help to feel like this because I have been in some bad relationships and I don't want to go through that again.Please help me. Hi,

I have some things I need to ask you about. My boyfriend is living with his best friend and his best friends girlfriend is living there too. His best friend, Chad, has been gone to Texas for 2 weeks now and will be there for another week. I feel really uncomfertorable about him staying there with her by himself, so I decide to stay with him a few nights just to make sure that nothing happens. Why do I feel like he is cheating on me? Then I try to talk to him and he gets mad at everything that I say is bothering me. I mean, for an example, Chads girlfriend had two of her close friends over and i came over to see my boyfriend, but the whole time he didn’t talk to me, he talked to the other girls. What should I do? Should I just drop him or should I wait a little bit and see if things get better, or something else…..? I hate feeling like this. I trust him I do but I can’t help to feel like this because I have been in some bad relationships and I don’t want to go through that again.Please help me.

]]> By: J http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1379 J Tue, 10 Apr 2007 03:54:38 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1379 My story- I met my girlfriend (ex girlfriend) in highschool we dated and went out for 3 years 3 months and 10 days. We had what my mom liked to call the "ideal" relationship. She said we just "got it" we always were very open and honest with eachother. We could spend days and nights talking. We both shared the same intimacy for eachother. We both shared the same wants for the future. We have been through so much for eachother. There are no secrets in our closets and even when it hurts we are honest with eachother. For the last year and half we have spent so much time together. We sleep in the same room or couch together and always hold eachother tight. We both love to be touching while we sleep. We did have sex up until about 9 months ago. It was a mutual decision to quit and wait till we got married because it was something we both wanted to wait on. She broke up with me a couple of weeks ago saying she wasnt happy. That she thought maybe she was staying with me because every one "expects" us to get married and have a future. She said she wants to know if she is doing it for her self and no one else. I believe with all my heart and all my prayers that we are meant to be. She is questioning her love for me. I dont know how to show her that its meant to be and how to get her to realize what we have. I asked her last time we talked who was the most trust-worthy person she was friends with and she said I was. She trust me with anything. How do I win her heart back or prove to her. Is it really just time and space...Because I have a problem with these 2 things. People can grow apart. I am in a tail spin and I want to pull out of it. Should I just move on with my life or should I stay and fight with all my hear in what I believe in? I desperately need advice. J My story-
I met my girlfriend (ex girlfriend) in highschool we dated and went out for 3 years 3 months and 10 days. We had what my mom liked to call the “ideal” relationship. She said we just “got it” we always were very open and honest with eachother. We could spend days and nights talking. We both shared the same intimacy for eachother. We both shared the same wants for the future. We have been through so much for eachother. There are no secrets in our closets and even when it hurts we are honest with eachother. For the last year and half we have spent so much time together. We sleep in the same room or couch together and always hold eachother tight. We both love to be touching while we sleep. We did have sex up until about 9 months ago. It was a mutual decision to quit and wait till we got married because it was something we both wanted to wait on. She broke up with me a couple of weeks ago saying she wasnt happy. That she thought maybe she was staying with me because every one “expects” us to get married and have a future. She said she wants to know if she is doing it for her self and no one else. I believe with all my heart and all my prayers that we are meant to be. She is questioning her love for me. I dont know how to show her that its meant to be and how to get her to realize what we have. I asked her last time we talked who was the most trust-worthy person she was friends with and she said I was. She trust me with anything. How do I win her heart back or prove to her. Is it really just time and space…Because I have a problem with these 2 things. People can grow apart. I am in a tail spin and I want to pull out of it. Should I just move on with my life or should I stay and fight with all my hear in what I believe in?

I desperately need advice.

J

]]> By: Lynn http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1376 Lynn Wed, 15 Nov 2006 01:52:35 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1376 Hi I met this guy and we have been going out a month now. We see each other once a week and I wait for him to call me. I am playing "play hard to get" game. I have learned from my past relationships not to call the men. But with this new guy I rarely know anything about him. I am afraid to ask questions and I am very private person. To be truthful I am statring to fall in love with him but I do not dare tell him. When is a good time to tell him that 6 months down the road? Help me I need some direction. Lynn Hi
I met this guy and we have been going out a month now. We see each other once a week and I wait for him to call me. I am playing “play hard to get” game. I have learned from my past relationships not to call the men. But with this new guy I rarely know anything about him. I am afraid to ask questions and I am very private person. To be truthful I am statring to fall in love with him but I do not dare tell him. When is a good time to tell him that 6 months down the road?

Help me I need some direction.

Lynn

]]> By: Elly http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1377 Elly Sat, 07 Oct 2006 21:17:06 +0000 http://www.lovecoachblog.com/areuingoodrel/#comment-1377 Hi, I have read several articles that you have written, and I enjoy and gain knowledge from them. My question is this, I am involved with a man who can't seem to resolve his feelings concerning his ex wife. Though, we exhibit alot of the above behaviors in a new relationship and a mature relationship. But we do not exhibit all of them, we do touch on alot of them. I am struggling with us right now because we have decided to be "just friends" until he can work through his feelings for his ex. He and I both come from dysfunctional families, and I am trying to work on me. I do believe he is trying to resolve his feelings for her, he knows she isn't' good for him, but it is the Pavlov's dog routine.. she says jump he says how high. This has been hard, because we do have a wonderful communication pattern, more so than any man I have dated. He was very open with me from the beginning about the unresolved issues of his past. We enjoy each other's company, and both of us are in agreement that being together, is very comfortable, and not like "work". So how do you determine with all of the signs of being in a good relationship, if this is actually a good place for me to be? Hi,

I have read several articles that you have written, and I enjoy and gain knowledge from them.

My question is this, I am involved with a man who can’t seem to resolve his feelings concerning his ex wife. Though, we exhibit alot of the above behaviors in a new relationship and a mature relationship. But we do not exhibit all of them, we do touch on alot of them. I am struggling with us right now because we have decided to be “just friends” until he can work through his feelings for his ex. He and I both come from dysfunctional families, and I am trying to work on me. I do believe he is trying to resolve his feelings for her, he knows she isn’t’ good for him, but it is the Pavlov’s dog routine.. she says jump he says how high. This has been hard, because we do have a wonderful communication pattern, more so than any man I have dated. He was very open with me from the beginning about the unresolved issues of his past. We enjoy each other’s company, and both of us are in agreement that being together, is very comfortable, and not like “work”. So how do you determine with all of the signs of being in a good relationship, if this is actually a good place for me to be?

]]>