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If you read Robert Bly and Robert Moore, you will learn that men need to go on a hero’s quest to claim their full masculinity.

These two insightful authors and countless others perceive the problems of men in our society as a lack of opportunity to grow up. There are no longer quests to fulfill. Men are no longer asked to grow in valor and strength of character, and they are no longer asked to mature emotionally.

I believe the current problems of men and women in relationships have something to do with a lack of hero’s journey in men’s lives. Not that women are completely innocent, as you will see as you read this article.

Women think nothing of pursuing men, putting up with bad relationship behavior. Women excuse men for being emotionally distant, physically and emotionally evasive, abusive, workaholic, unskilled relationally and generally hard to be in a love relationship with. Granted, not all men are hard to love, but many are, and many women and families, including men themselves, are suffering because of this and seeking a way to fix their relationship.

One of the things that would help men be more relational and create happier relationships would be to undertake a hero’s journey to intimacy.

Single Man’s Hero Journey

What can you do if you are a single man who’s been unlucky in love?

A single man’s hero journey to intimacy
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Below you will find the best of the best books on love and relationships, for both men and women. These are some of my favorite books, the ones I suggest to clients when they are working on their relationship or single life. These are also the books I turn to when navigating my own relationship and life.

Lately I have been re-reading many of these books and hearing from clients about them, and I thought I would share them with you:

The New Rules of Marriage by Terrence Real

This book is the manual for how to have a functional relationship and marriage, and a must-have for anyone in a relationship, good or not. It’s a great read for singles so that they know what to do once they are in a relationship.

Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody

Pia Mellody is one of the pioneers in personal recovery field. This book is one of the few on the market exposing love addiction and love avoidance. Don’t know what either one is? You are probably a love addict or a love avoidant yourself – as most people are. This book will help you see it and heal it, and will help you bring sanity to your relationship life.
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