couple_arguingEveryone at one point or another criticizes the person they are in a relationship with, be it a partner, a parent, a child, a co-worker, etc. Sometimes the criticism is verbalized outright, often it is veiled in a sideways comment, and at times it is not spoken but felt.

Criticism, the request for adjustment in behavior from another, is a normal part of life, part of friction we feel dealing with each other and our own individual preferences.

I know this is not the common view. The common view of criticism is that it is offensive, an insult, an affront, an attack. Perhaps it is all those things sometimes, but most often, it is none of those. Let me tell you what criticism, or feedback, or request for change is really about. You might be surprised by what you read below.

What does it mean when one person gives another constructive feedback or criticism or asks for a change in behavior? [click to read more…]

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Love Stimulus Sale: Get Coaching Now at 50% off

by Love Coach Rinatta on August 18, 2010

in Love Coaching, fb

Normally I charge $150 per 1-hour coaching session, but for two days this month, with very limited availability I will be offering $75 coaching secessions! Only 10 coaching slots are available at this rate, so if you have been wanting relationship or dating help and have not known where to turn, this is your chance!

Why would you want to be coached by me?

I won’t toot my own horn, but will instead let you explore a couple of resources to see if working with me is for you. See below, but don’t take too long. This sale is only good for two days this month and one of those days is tomorrow (Thursday 8/19/10)…

~ Take a look at the two most recent testimonials from clients in the right hand side bar of this site
~ Read articles I have written on dating, singlehood, communication and relationships
~ Get to know me

Finally learn about the kind of coaching I offer and what it can do for you.

If after exploring these pages you decide that having a session with me will be of benefit to you, go to the coaching session page and click the “register for your coaching session” link.

In the discount code field enter Love and update the cart. Proceed with payment and registration and I will get in touch with you by email shortly to schedule your session.

I am looking forward to speaking to you and helping you resolve the issue that is keeping you from having all the love you want!

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Relationship Patterns: how the past still runs you

Ever heard of a relationship pattern? A relationship pattern is a set of negative events that repeats in your relationship(s) on a regular basis. So what are your relationship patterns and what can you do to change them? To find out read this article and listen to the radio show.

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Relationship Tip: Why It’s Bad to Go to Bed Angry

A psychological study done last year found that sleep preserves emotionally charged events.
This means that if you have a fight with your partner and don’t resolve it before bed, you are more likely to hold on to the fight  and your hurt feelings in your permanent memory. Not a good thing for your relationship!
If you [...]

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Avoid TMI When Dating

Want to know how much personal information is too much on the first few dates? Read my take on too much TMI in this article on Match.com.

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Relationship Tip: Feel Less Hurt After a Fight

Did you just have a fight with your partner? Reduce how hurt you both feel now and later and you stand a better chance of resolving the offending issue and saving your relationship from damage.
How do you reduce hurt? Try playing 10 minutes of Tetris – a computer game – right after the fight. A [...]

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Dating Tip: What’s Dating For

Dating is not grow-the-relationship process. It is a getting-to-know-each-other-and-see-if-we-fit-process. This getting to know you phase last from 3 to 6 months. During this time you should not be falling in love. You can fall in like, lust and enjoyment of each other, but not love.
There will be plenty of time for love later, if the [...]

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Singles Tip: Having Trouble Meeting Right Partner?

Single and having trouble meeting right partner? Check your beliefs. Do you believe all the good once are taken? Do you believe there aren’t any good available singles to date in you area? Do you believe people you want aren’t going to want you?
If you believe all good once are taken, none are in your [...]

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Relationship Tip: How to Deal with Anger

Resentment and anger towards your partner happens. However, how you deal with it can make or break your relationship. Be aware of your thoughts & feelings, so resentment and anger towards your partner don’t lurk in the background poisoning love. Tell your partner what you want, need, what’s bothering you. Even if it’s small, big, [...]